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Zidane363
Nov 20, 2002, 04:14 PM
I feel as if this forum is possibly were I post the most....but I hope that everybody please read this for my sake before I end up as Silver said Losing It

Now......lately i've been acting different....and well reason is....I'm reliving moments that I'd wish to never ever experience ever again but....life just throws it back at me in a agrovating way. So much of my life has been nothing but abuse. Where did it all start? Well we all know about me being abandoned...guess you can consider that abuse, right?

I remembered when I first remembered being abused for the first time in 1st grade. A kid said to me over and over "Georgie Poorgie!" That name went on and on over and over through my head forcing me to overhear it over and over again none stop.

The teachers at the school enjoyed abusing me. Day by day they make me clean up the class pet cages and always clean out the floor and god forbid taking me to the principal's office and getting me in trouble for no reason. Mom had to come to the school over and over again and tried her best at having the school board take care of all this abuse on me. It worked out well.

Another thing that I found abusive to me......was "I want to KILL you" I heard those words over and over again. Where did it all start? 6th Grade.....that's where it started.....I would always run away from the person who says I want to kill you and hide somewhere....while people laughed at me and overhearing "AH HE'S A FUCKED UP LOSER!!!!WHAT A FAGGOT!!!" "Man doesn't he know you were kidding?" "Maybe....or maybe not"

Sometimes hearing that makes me afraid to even roam around the school not going one day in my life hearing those words over and over again. The I'm gonna kill you thing......however there was one where somebody really meant it.....and I'm not kidding here.

6th Grade again.....I was on my way to school riding my bike and everything was going good....til this one kid from accross the street saw me and said "HEY FAGGOT!!!!" I looked over to him and he began running at me with a Knife
I all of a sudden began breathing hard and looking and just running off on my bike looking away from the kid.....and he was running after me chasing me with the knife....the knife was a army issue knife and god forbid him trying to stab me with it. I got away from him and told the school officials in the office.....the police had to come in and search him and believe it or not...he didn't have the knife on him. They searched his backpack and nothing and checked his locker and nothing. However the police gave him one last chance to give it up before he goes to Jail. So then he called in one of his friends and he had it.

After that day....I find the words "I Want To Kill You" hurtful to me...because that day told me it could happen for real even when people joke around. I'm crying......crying so bad......remembering that day *sniffs a bit* wouldn't you hate to be in that position....where people want to kill you so badly they even resort to bringing in a knife to school?

I've always been one to follow the rules when other people find themselves not following......you know one time at my middle school we had choose our student officers who basically run around the school patroling for any problems....however....they made the problems....no matter how many times you tell the principal all they do is deny it and say "We didn't do it, honest."

It seems like some of the student officers happened to not really like me a lot....always kicking me and always breaking my backpack and always pushing me into the girl's bathroom ;_; God they wouldn't stop it...I told and told and told the principal but they never believed me. I asked my parents to call the school over and over but nothing.....we tried the parents of the students but they did nothing.....they let it all happen right there in front of my face.

My girlfriends......you all remembered what happened.....however there was more to the "I hate you George" or "Your ugly!!!!" They found themselves of having it their way....a few snuck attack from behind, scratching me all over the place and having their new boyfriends hurl me over the top of a guard post and into shrubery areas...god that hurted so badly. Hell shows it's face in those area and not even saying "Sorry" or shit.

9th Grade Aragon High School Freshman Year.
I thought high school would be great....people not caring about any kid shit and so forth....guess I was wrong. About a few weeks into the first year Juniors found me to be a so called "Kicking Toy" for them.....One by one someone would sneak up on me from behind and stuff me down a garbage can. One time I remember a football player kicking me in the back with his cleaks on >_< he hit me right in the ass and god the pain wouldn't go away for weeks!!!! Then the words came back again that has haunted me "I'm going to kill you!" Some Junior told me right there in front of my face and walked off. I wondered if it was gonna happen....but it was real.

I was walking to my friends house along with him and 3 other people to go play Smash Bros. Melee and Bloody Roar. So I dropped my History Book and my friends began crossing the street. After I picked up my book and began crossing the street then hearing a Mustang speeding up I looked both ways and to my right was a Mustang coming right at me at high speed looking like it was aiming at me. I quickly ran to the side-walk and jumped onto it and.....the mustang swarved towards me and it barely missed me just by 2 in. or so my friends all of a sudden looked back and saw what happened and began yelling at the hit and run driver. The guy never stopped so we continued on to my friend's house and called the police....gave them the description of the car and license plate number....they found the guy and he went to jail for I don't remember how long.

I guess that's all the abuse i've been through.....so many times that even today it comes back to me in forms I don't want it....I go around looking for a safe spot to get away from it all.....but it seems like the Abuse always comes for me and me alone. What am I to do....so much abuse is happening to me everyday all over the place and I feel there's no where to run away from it all. I guess it's the way life treats me....none.....stop.........

AP
Nov 20, 2002, 07:35 PM
Originally posted by Zidane363
My girlfriends......you all remembered what happened.....however there was more to the "I hate you George" or "Your ugly!!!!" They found themselves of having it their way....a few snuck attack from behind, scratching me all over the place and having their new boyfriends hurl me over the top of a guard post and into shrubery areas...god that hurted so badly. Hell shows it's face in those area and not even saying "Sorry" or shit.

This is the only thing I ca really comment on, because its happened to me.

I appear to pick all the wrong girls. They take me in, chew me up, spit me back out again, steal everything I can possibly offer to them, and then get thier new boyfriend to step on my face.

The only one who I did get on with, she got raped recently, and its ruined her.

The past experiences of how i've been treated by girlfriends, and other people i would trust with my life, one of the things that has made me so cold, apart from when I really open myself up to you, when i consider you a real friend, then you see a different side of me. So yeah. On that...

Life's cruel, and these are the people who make it cruel. Try not to give yourself away, in a relationship or friendship, until you're sure. Thats the only advice I can give.

AP

Zidane's True Love
Nov 20, 2002, 08:06 PM
You know a similar thing happened here as well. This is a convo about two admins of the LynX server who are really good friends (were?) DsoTm and SCOUT 405. This involves talking about how DsoTm's wife cheated on him for his best friend and when I spent an hour reading about life sucks and all that I think you will find some kind of inspiration here that will tell you to go on. Yeah life is full of crap but we gotta move on and do what we each do best. Something Will Smith said to me once. There's something to be learned in this convo so I hope you take time and read this and hopefully there's something you can grasp here, though it may not apply.

I warn people that this is not for young readers as this is an adult forum and will contain some graphic things.

Clan LynX (http://www.clanlynx.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1761&PHPSESSID=e4f76d1d1cbcff25a6684b5d7c92de58)

ArrowCat
Nov 20, 2002, 09:15 PM
Well...all I can say is...I know what it's like to be bullied. To be chased, and shoved around, and called ugly and weird and messed up... ...And to run for a long time because you know that if you stop, freaks will catch you and hell knows what will happen then. However, you can't let that control your life. Even though school officials do next to nothing to help, talk to some of your friends about how people kick and threaten you. Bullies don't attack groups, and adults are more likely to listen to four kids than only one. If you can get your friends to understand what is happening, I don't see why they won't help to protect you.

I can't speak for the girls that you have met in the past, but I can tell you this: everyone gets a girlfriend or a boyfriend eventually. EVERYONE. You have evidently run into mean, decietful girls so far...but not everyone is like that!!! You have to wait and be patient til the right girl comes your way.

As for the Mustang incident...it seems like you are taking personally something that is a one-time event. It isn't as though you are nearly hit by a mustang every day, and although it may seem like bad things like that happen to you often, it's not personal...chances are the people behind different incidents are all different. If you survived unhurt, then it's okay, right?

In any case, try not to be dragged down by things so much. I know how much of a drag bullies can be, believe me, I do. But making you sad and scared is exactly what they want, and the best way to fight a bully is to not give them that satisfaction.

Life goes on, never forget that, and it's up to you to decide how happily you go through it.

Vivi_Stalker
Nov 20, 2002, 09:17 PM
I'm so sorry GM! :( Nobody has the right to do any of those things to you.... I just can't understand why anyone would want to REALLY kill you...I can understand people joking around, or not going through with it...Happens to me all the time... But I can say with the utmost certainty that there is NO reason for that to happen!

I know what it's like to be constantly pushed around and picked on...It's horrible. But most of mine comes in the form of mental abuse... Snide comments, scrawled notes... Steely cold glares and whispers. Nobody ever does anything to deserve that treatment...

I know I've picked on my fair share of people, but not to anyone's face. I know how it hurts...But it's an instinctive thing. Anything a person sees that they reguard as funny, strange or out of place is immediately targeted. I'm guilty of the occasional giggle here and there, and people will endure that as they grow up, no questions asked.

As you probably have guessed, it's the good people who get the dirty end of the stick, most often. But a strong person will rise above it... You kind of have to, as I know all too well.

The key is not to roll over and lay down and take it...Or act like it hurts. When I began my 7th grade year, I'd been hurt in so many ways that it made me VERY vulnerable. I'd cry at the drop of a hat... And people knew it. It got worse and worse until I finally did something about it... To eac of them personally.

Some required a little more....Ah..."force" than others to keep from picking on me, but by the next year, I had everything straightened out to a degree.

If these tips help, try and use them a little to a time... I can't guarantee they'll work for you. We're two different people.

1) Brush off the little things.

-If it's not a serious debate, or a fight... Just shrug it off. This happens to be easier to do when you're with a group of friends. ^^;; Yes, strength in numbers... It empowers me, because I know I'm not alone.

2) Take a deep breath and try to clear your mind.

-This works up to a mild degree of frustration. It's not gonna work it's you're freaking out. Just loosen up try to think about one thing. If it helps, make it as absurd as possible. .....At one point, I found myself thinking about what would happen if a Blowfish got punctured. ...^^;; I've been known to forget things in a matter of minutes this way.

3) Try not to press the big red button.

- Don't PANIC. If they see it, it'll get worse, trust me. Try to remain as neutral as possible. Utter apathy. Depending on the person, they'll still pick on you to a certain degree, but they may or may not have as much fun doing it. Unless they're really simple, or course. If you put on your Poker face and hide the frustration till you're out of range, it'll put a damper on their plans.

George...I hope this helps you...Even if it's in a small way.
Try and cheer up, okay? *Huggles* Rise above it, you know you're better than those dingleberries. ^_^ And we know it too.

Kat
Nov 21, 2002, 06:55 AM
I... don't know what to say Z...
I'm just... so sorry for you... :(
I'm Sorry.

Well... the others pretty much said it all, so...
I just want you to know that you can definetely
come here for support, we're all here for ya ^_^ *hugs*

swatleader
Nov 21, 2002, 11:24 AM
well i do not know how much i can help but i guess i will try, i been through some of those things my self(like the thing about someone wanting to kill you and others) well i have had my life threatened a few times and well none were to good i know that much. was riding a bike over to a friends house when a group of people out of no where jumped out in front of me so i did was was instinct and stopped when they crowded around me and the one right in front of me pulled out a knife which immediately scared the heck out of me so i do not know how but i quickly jumped off my bike which i guess caught them by surprise because i was able to get through the crowd fast enough to go get help, even though i decided to do nothing when i knew where they all lived i never did see them again really after that than a few years later the biggest dude in this school i went to i guess was angry at me for no reason at all came up to me started pushing me around and than stopped so i walked off than i heard him say to watch by back that he was going to kill me and i do not know why i said it but i turned around and told him off which normally would have been a bad thing but i was not messed with by him again. well since i been in high school and all no one has tried to kill me but i get messed with a lot and hit quite often but that was 9 th grade and than everyone started seeing the effects you could say of what they were doing and people started thinking that i was going to go crazy on them and stuff so they just up and stopped bothering me so i really do not get messed with no more which is a good thing but in a way its not but i guess you can not have it good without something bad happening or thats the case with me. now the girl friend thing well i have only really had one bad girl friend who really put a hurting on me and well even though i moved on and found someone new it still hurt and i will never forget what happened but like they said everyone does find someone eventually but you have to be patient and wait for the right person to come your way.

Beatrix the Goddess
Nov 29, 2002, 03:24 PM
Erm....either an admin has stickied this without telling me, or I'm logging onto uff9 in my sleep and doing strange things o_O I'll unstick it now, since I can't really see a reason for it to be stuck. If there is then some admin can restick it.

As for the actual topic....I'll discuss it on MSN with you George. Not here.