Girl Trouble

[ShimmyDylan7777]

I have so much damn girl problems, I can never get a gf... I'm nott ugly- hell naw, but It may be the way I am. Like I act different from others I'm outgoing with muh friends but I'm pretty shy around the girls I really really like that I wanna date. Well then, alio you can write here too about your girl problems, but the Live Journal thing is problaby way better then this. Sorry -_-

[Jon]

My honest advice is to not bother trying to get a girlfriend. Save it until your mid 20s or something.

Thats when you've changed fully and thats when you'll know what sort of person you are.

I'm 18 and I haven't a clue what I'll be like in a few years, so it's best to wait a while. You're only 12, so you really shouldn't be fretting about not getting a girl.

[Adam]

As for being shy don't worry about it, I was shy around girls until I was 16 when I actually just made friends with a girl shes my best friend now and I don't feel shy around them anymore just being friends with some girls helps a lot when your shy it teaches you how to act but as Jon says your only 12 so don't fret too much about it at the minute

[FF Freek]

well, i think wait until you get to college becuz the gf's in college are usually sluts. im not syain they all are but most of them want a quickie. if you want to get a gf, be yourself. dont try to be someone that ur not becuz women dont like that. good luck

[ShimmyDylan7777]

thanx for da advice n all... but damn I can't wait dat long, muh best friendz have gf's. I mean I'm only nervous around them, like the girls that I like, well not really. Put it this way, if I make a wrong move of doing something. I'm pretty much fucked. haha well it is true -_- :(

[Adam]

Just because your mates have Girlfriend doesn't mean you have too, these things come with time they can't be rushed no matter how much you want it..sorry

[ShimmyDylan7777]

I know that, it just gets me so pissed off sometimes. I really like this girl, but she has been lieing to me n shiit! So I never know how I feel. Love gets to you and well it takes over. Maybe hormons or how ever ya spell it are kicking in? o_O

[FF Freek]

if you really like her, ask her to go with u. be straight up like that. try to control ur emotions and dont be shy. if u cant say it to her, get one of your friends to ask her or make her a love letter. do sumthing man.

[Mr. Self Destruct]

Don't worry about women until you're older.

The End.

[Orichalcon]

Don't worry about them at all. If it happens, it happens. If not, you probably don't need them to begin with. Like everyone else, let time take its course. Of course, it's probably lonely as hell right now, but this is a temporary situation.

It probably is hormones beginning to flow, so give those some time too. You'll probably get used to them, and won't worry about this so much. There are plenty of other things to occupy your mind. All aspects of the future...and those damn space mantises waiting to take over. But that's for another thread.

[EDIT] I seem to like the word probably.

[ShimmyDylan7777]

Yea, but still... that may be but I havta worry bout them cuz I don't want to turn into a gay guy!! I love girls, but I'll wait. By the way the girl that I really like I fucked it up big ass time. I dunno if she is even my friend now :angry: -_- x_x

[krikie]

Hmm, what have you done, little grasshoper?

[Lazuline]

Yea, but still... that may be but I havta worry bout them cuz I don't want to turn into a gay guy!!

Believe me, waiting a few years does not make you Gay (tm), so stop worrying. ;P

I'd advise you to sit back and wait a while, as countless others have. It isn't painful, trust me.

[ShimmyDylan7777]

Why does everybody say wait..? If you don't try now, you'll have no experience at all for gettin a girlfriend! I mean if you wait I'll still be nervous as shit. So thats why I really don't want to wait. I hope you get my point of veiw. -_-

[EDIT] I am thankful that your trying to help me, I am just so confuzzed right now. Also why am I being called "little grasshoper"?

[Mr. Self Destruct]

You're twelve. You still have a good 60 years or so for experience (I'm kidding, a seventy two year old guy hitting on girls is kind of creepy). You really have other things to worry about other than women at your age. And experience isn't really hard to get when you're older.

[DreamLines]

I accept that if there is a girl that you really really like, then being told to just ignore her and your feelings for a few years is probably the worst advice that can be given. So I won't give it - you don't have to wait.

I am surprised that most of your friends have actually got gfs, since as this forums has shown most people wouldn't expect to be having girlfriends until much older, although I suspect that your version of a girlfriend is different from ours - (or at least I hope it is.)

I remember that there was a girl that I really liked when I was your age, and the fact was that I had no success at all either - yet had I actually been successful... - I know that it would have just put me in far better stead for my current age.

But as for what to do? Well I'm probably not the best person to give advice since my social life then was a cacophony of errors – just as you claim your to be. And I wouldn't let that bother you; mistakes carry less value at your age.

Adam's advice is the most obvious, yet also incidentally the best - try to forget your feelings and just generally socialise with girls - even those who you wouldn't want to go out with (a bad thing to do is to think of every girl in terms of gf material.) And then providing that your reasonably natural - how you conduct yourself is up to you - but in theory if your not thinking about romance e.t.c, then it's easier not to get nervous. So just make sure you get friendly with as many as possible and that'll give you experience as to what they're like.

Ummm if this girl is proving untrustworthy, then treat her with great trepidation, I tend to get very paranoid at this stage, which is a bad thing - so perhaps just showing her trust is the best thing - and forgiving her for when she fucks up - and eventually she'll come round to you. Just try to be sort of in situations in groups where you can talk. I suppose you'll have to wait on her if you want to go out - although girls do normally give of subtle signs if they do - just notice them since they don't come along often, and um yeah, that probably hasn't been much help - but I would say that getting to know as many girls besides this ‘one’ is the best thing to do, since from experience I know that I tended to just forget about all other girls. Don't do anything too drastic...lol.

[ShimmyDylan7777]

whoa man :retard: o_O

[Derextreme]

Yup =] I agreed

[DreamLines]

Hey I always write too much!

Don't take it personally.

[Minion]

Heh. Yeah, im the same way. I normally talk to women, but i's like im a descendant of the Plauge or something. I dunno.

Anyway, my thing is to say this. Just wait it out. Whatever happens, happens.

[Derextreme]

Sometimes Gals are nicer 2 tok 2 then guys..Dunno y? gals usually help u most when u are havin problems....

[Beatrix the Goddess]

You'll fimd that as you grow older you'll probably be more confident with girls anyway, even if you haven't actually had a girlfriend. You'll have more confidence in yourself, you'll be more articulate and, eventually, more mature as a person. Don't forget- all these people have been twelve; they know. I know you think "waiting" is a pointless strategy, but it's the most sensible one. Sure all your friends have girlfriends now, but do you really think any of them are going to last? They won't. It sounds like you're in the worst stage for getting girlfriends at the moment anyway- you've got peer pressure to the extent that you're afraid people will think you're gay if you don't have a girlfriend, you're too young for a serious relationship and so are the girls in your year. Anyway you'll probably find that girls of your age are more interested in older guys at the moment. It's sad but true; girls mature earlier than boys. Anyway, trust me, & everyone who has posted; you're only storing up a lot of problems and heartache for yourself if you worry about girls now. Frankly you'd be a lot more popular with girls if you just tried to make friends with them instead of trying to go out with them. "Hi, my mate over there wants to know if you'll go out with him" is never a good introduction.

[Ragnarok]

Really if you're 15 or younger, you won't be able to have a good relationship anyway. Neither girls nor guys really have the maturity needed for a good relationship until they're at least 16. Make friends, but I suggest you keep it at that.

[ShimmyDylan7777]

*sighs and yawns* alright alright i'll wait for some time and yep whatever happens happens... i guess.

[Sofa King]

Hold up. Everyone is advicing you to wait? What is he suppose to wait for? Puberty should have started long time ago. XD

I have so much damn girl problems, I can never get a gf... I'm not ugly- hell naw, but It may be the way I am. Like I act different from others I'm outgoing with muh friends but I'm pretty shy around the girls I really really like that I wanna date.

You're already a teenager. Its normal to start thinking about girls already. If you weren't, I be worried. So if you know you are ready to start dating, I say go for it.
If you just want to have some fun in a semi-platonic sort of way, take a girl to the movies, school dance, etc. As for your shy personality towards girls, thats on you buddy. Don't worry about it and be yourself and girls will like you for who you are.

If I were your age again, I just have some fun and not act like a jerk. Nothing to be nervious about. Really, a lot of girls your age are shy too so its up to you to approach them.

My two cents

[Dr. Flux]

Hold up. Everyone is advicing you to wait? What is he suppose to wait for? Puberty should have started long time ago. XD


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I have so much damn girl problems, I can never get a gf... I'm not ugly- hell naw, but It may be the way I am. Like I act different from others I'm outgoing with muh friends but I'm pretty shy around the girls I really really like that I wanna date.



You're already a teenager. Its normal to start thinking about girls already. If you weren't, I be worried. So if you know you are ready to start dating, I say go for it.
If you just want to have some fun in a semi-platonic sort of way, take a girl to the movies, school dance, etc. As for your shy personality towards girls, thats on you buddy. Don't worry about it and be yourself and girls will like you for who you are.

If I were your age again, I just have some fun and not act like a jerk. Nothing to be nervious about. Really, a lot of girls your age are shy too so its up to you to approach them.

My two cents

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I'm sorry BlanK, I've been itching to use that ever since I found it. XXP

[Sofa King]

XD

But of course, I can't compare to young Aussie men. Apparently you Aussies will shag anything that moves!

Need proof?

Aussie teens are tops at mating

August 04 2003 at 09:15AM


Sydney - Teenagers in Australia are among the most sexually active in the world, a report released on Monday showed.

The country also has the sixth-highest teenage pregnancy rate in the developed world, and abortions are now the second most common reason young women are admitted to hospital.

The report's author, Rachel Skinner from the University of Western Australia, said teenagers are having sex first and thinking about the consequences later.

"It's perhaps not surprising that half of adolescent pregnancies occur in the first six months of sexual activity," Skinner said.

She advocated sexual education programmes in schools as the best way to cut teenage pregnancy rates. - Sapa-DPA

[Dr. Flux]

wow, that was made in 2003, I wonder how it is 2 years down the track? Anyway, I'll redeam myself for that blatent spammage.

I think you should follow Mr. Paizuri Tatsujin's (XD You dirty, dirty man) advice. I mean, if you're ready for love, you're ready for love. Many people are scared of being hurt, many people have been hurt, but such is life. There's no use running from it. I say buck up and grab some ladies! ;)

I quote from the magic school bus for the first time in my entire life.

Take chances, make mistakes and get dirty!

Or is it busy? >_> Oh well...


EDIT: I love guys, I really do..... :P
BtG

[Derextreme]

Teenagers do think about girls. My class boys are also like they are comment those things and who is pretty and character etc. Its so normal to be like if you are not then maybe u have the different gender or maybe a gay. If you do not think of girls meaning that maybe u are maybe still small or haven reach the pubety stage level. i have relationship before its is diffcult to hander it. Do not try it. Thoughts till here. Thanz u

[krikie]

Originally posted by BtG:
"Hi, my mate over there wants to know if you'll go out with him" is never a good introduction.

You can say that again. Don't tell anyone about it, first off (unless it's too late:P) Becuase her hearing it from someone else would just screw everything up. So yea.

Waiting could be good, just to see how things play out. Or you could just use my strategy (which is kind of weird ...) I'm working on meeting a certain guy, and this is what I do.

1. Play mini-stalker: Assuming that this girl is from school, this could work. Wait until you see her in the hall and follow at a far enough distance that she won't know. Do that for a while so you can hear some of what she says. Then you can find out what you have in common. DON'T do anything drastic. Like a real stalker. We want mini. Now, the guy I'm watching sits at a lunch table right next to the lunch line. So naturally, I tend to wait in that line with my friends. That way I can pick up bits and peices of his conversations, so I can see what we have in common. Once I find out some stuff, I'll talk to him. Which leads me on to step 2..

2. Talk to them. Let's pretend you heard her say that she LOVES the lord of the rings series, and so do you. You could walk up to her and say 'I heard that your a big Lotr fan, so am I.' Then you ask her some questions about herself concerning Lotr, then stray off topic until you've got a good conversation going. I don't have enough on my guy, but I'll keep you informed ..

3. After you at least know eachothers names, whenever you see her in the hall alone, go and talk to her. Just some nice, small conversations to start out with is a good idea. Don't rush into anything and scare her away.

4. After a while you guys will know eachother better. When you feel you know her enough, that's when you can start flirting or something. Maybe by then you won't feel so uncomfortable. Now I know it can be hard to muster up the strength to talk to her in the first place, so do that old medatating thing. Close your eyes, breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth, and just listen. Then pray to god that you won't make a fool of yourself. And go!

So that's what I tend to do anyway. And it works. For me. So I hope it works for you, too. Then again, that was assuming you didn't know her yet. If you do know her, then start from step 3. It may take some time, but it's worth it.

Hope that helped!

[ShimmyDylan7777]

Thank you Krikie

[krikie]

I think that was my longest post ever. Anyway, hope it helps

[ShimmyDylan7777]

hmm cool... well this isn't what I'm about to put. Read this fellas...
Taylor n Me Chattin [bad] (http://www.freewebs.com/chobitzrul/taylor.htm)

[EDIT] You have to highlight the whole thing to see Taylor's text. Taylor is the girl I like by the way.

[Beatrix the Goddess]

Hmm....well it doesn't sound like you like her at all- doesn't sound like you're shy either, but I suppose you're more confident on the net. But anyway...if she's messing you around then she's really not worth the effort. If you really do still like her & want to have any chance of going out with her, I suggest you're more supportive instead of yelling at her like that; be the one she confides in about her problems, rather than getting into arguments with her.

[ShimmyDylan7777]

but see, you have no idea what is happening between me and her. I really really like her but I got in a fight with her ex and she is standing up for him and I didn't do shiit. Wen I said she was hot or I really like you she would get pissed off. And this kid Chris is doing it and she doesn't mind one lil fucking bit :angry: but oh well I guess she really doesn't even want to be my friend too. x_x -_- :(

[Dr. Flux]

Well it's pretty obvious that if she doesn't like you, then you aren't gonna get any love back. A crush is all fine, but don't take it too far unless the feeling's mutual.

[ShimmyDylan7777]

yeah, I'm not going to continue liking her, I do want to still be her friend but nothing more. -_-

[Sofa King]

I wouldn't even go as far to be her friend. Waste of time that you can spend on some one else who wouldn't just dump their drama on you. Why have that headache? If the feeling ain't mutual like Flux said, then move on because you'll find someone worth the time and energy.

[krikie]

But you can't really control your feelings ...

So I guess my next suggestion is to just not think about it. Or scope out other possibilites. And spend some time away from her. Absence makes the heart grow fonder! Maybe that'll help her to like you. Maybe. Or you'll grow off of her. Win-win situation.

[Derextreme]

I usually good with gals. Just do not be scared just have confidence while talking to them and look at them while talking. You are only 12 years old still year just build up your confidence then you fine already....