i have a delima i need some advice with

[BloodStarDragoon]

Hi I am having a problem with a decesion and I'm in need of some advice. I guess I sould tell you what happend before you can help me out, well heres the situation a few days ago i meet up with my freind trey whom was hanging out with some of his friends from school. When I meet up with him I learned that the two friends he was hanging out with happend to be Jenet and Jason, both of whom I had worked with at my last job which was cool because I liked them both and always wnated to hangout with them. Well anyways we got together and hung out at the mall for a couple of hours after that we went over to Jason house and played the board game who wants to be a millionare. I got my butt kicked in that game but it was fun but thats getting off of the subject. Jenet was getting tired so she decided to go home. Trey Jason and me we continued to hang out all night and talk about all kinds of things, as we did me and Jason got to know eachother better. I learned that he was bi which I admit came as no big deal to me for I to am bi. I also learned that not only Jason but Jenet was bi as well. I was told that lately Jenet has been leaning more towards the female aspect of iher sexuality. She has been telling jason that he needs to find a boyfriend. As Jason and me contunied to talk and hang out I discovered that I have feelings for Jason, as well as Jason having feelings for me. Well needles to say we ended up fooling around and spent the rest of the night and part of the next day at his house. I had to get into work around 5 at night so i left and went into work and ahd one of the best days at work that i have had in a while. When i got off of work I decided to take a short nap. I was so tired i dont know if it was due to the work or all the fun i had the previous night. Not long into my nap I was awoken by my cell phone it was jenet, she called to warn me off of jason telling me to stay the &^%$ away from her man. Well here is my delima do i go with my feelings for him persue him even though i was warned off or do i back off and let my feeling for him slowly eat away at me. Now i know it seem that it seems like a pretty easy delima to solve but tis not i care for both of them as friends and they are going out and i dont want to do anything that would harm either of them so theres my delima can someone please tell me how to go about solving it

[Beatrix the Goddess]

If Jason & Jenet are "officially" an item, then definitely stay away from Jason. You don't want to get mixed up in something like that. And cheating on someone just dishes out pain for everyone, it's really not good. Please don't get mixed up in that..

If they're not an item (sorry I didn't quite get from your post whether they were or not), then it just depends on your own morals, values and principals. Do you want the best for your friends or the best for yourself? If you go with your feelings then it's quite likely that a rift will form between Jason and Jenet. Sure Jenet isn't entirely justified in warning you off, if they're not together, but I can understand why she would and I'm sure you can too. Do you want to risk that happening?

On the other hand, resisting temptation and burying your feelings takes a lot of strength...strength which I'm sure you have somewhere, but it's up to you if you choose to employ it or not.

If I were in the situation...I wouldn't persue Jason unless my feelings were very strong & serious, rather than just a crush, because it's simply not worth causing quarrells and rifts, over something that might just go away in time.

Pm me if you want to talk more :)

[Ozma Omega]

That sounds like a really tough situation you`ve gotten into.

I agree with BtG.
If Jason and Jenet are really together, you should definitely stay out.
But if they aren`t... that`s really up to you.
I wouldn`t have done it unless your feelings are really powerful, and you just have to let them out.
And it also depends on how much you value your friendship with Jenet.
She didn`t really have much right to say what she did if they aren`t an item, but if they are, then I`d stay away.
Love-triangles can be quite difficult to deal with.
It takes a lot of strength to bury your feelings like this, but maybe it`s for the best.
It`s up to you.

Good luck!
I hope this works out for you.