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Tallulah
Mar 24, 2007, 11:46 AM
Well...

As some of you might know I've been having a hard time with Jason lately. Last week, I thought things were getting better, and he hinted that he might want to get back with me in a few weeks, he even told his mother we might get back together, and she seemed delighted.

Anyway, I suggested we meet up for a drink, so we did, and he made me feel so sad, some of the stuff he said. I didn't want to tell him that I do want to get back with him, because I think we are really good together, and he's usually such a lovely, caring guy, and I know I'll never meet anyone else like him. I have met a few new guys this week, a couple who I thought I might be interested in, but I've thought about it hard, and I don't think it would work with either of them (one is too much of a slacker, and one is too much of a geek). Later in the night, Jason was saying he wants to let me go because I'm only 23, he's the only person who's proplerly 'done it' with me, and he wants me to meet other people. Now that is bullshit, because some people are lucky enough to find someone quite early in their lives. I've only told one person this (he knows who he is! :) ) but I might as well say it as it is an obvious part of the problem. Around Christmas time, I had these feelings that he could be 'The One' *holds up finger like that little kid in Love Actually*, but his attitude that he's not good enough for me has brought that crashing to the ground, and I hate it, and him, to a certain extent.

At the end of the night, he and Neal (a mutual friend who's come to stay) decided to go home and just leave me in the Jailhouse all by myself. A year ago I would have been okay with this, but now so much has happened, and I don't like being left alone any more. That's why I'm really enjoying the Gateway to Work course I met these new people at; we're all in the same boat, and it's just great being amongst people in general, the camaraderie is fantastic. Also, my job is driving me mad because I'm left alone to do everything. I can do it, but I feel so isolated.

Anyway, I felt abandoned, so I went out after Jason, and started shouting the odds at him like an idiot, and was on the brink of telling him that maybe we shouldn't see each other for a while, but I was afraid of upsetting him, plus it wouldn't have sounded good coming from me in the state I was in. I kept accusing him of pushing me, and shouted at him not to kiss me (even though it was on the cheek), so he just got into a huff and walked away, which he was perfectly within his rights to do. I texted him that I was sorry, but I felt abandoned, and he replied 'We're not together anymore, so what's the problem?'. Now that really upset me. Even friends are supposed to stick together, and not abandon each other. I nearly told him 'I don't think we should see each other any more, it's too painful for me. Goodbye', but I was too scared to send it. This morning I sent one saying 'I'm sorry I was such a bitch last night, it was the drink talking.'

I was so horrible to him last night. I fear that I have lost him, and his friendship, forever...

I hate myself. I am such an awful person. ;_;

Rinoa leonheart
Mar 24, 2007, 01:18 PM
Let me just say that your not an awful person you only reacted that way because you felt hurt their is nothing to feel ashamed of. As for him I think that he's frightend, I think he does care for you but he just wants you to do better. I think his lack of confidance is making him push you away because you mean so much to him. I think in his head he's worryed that later on down the line your going to push him away so he's doing it first so he does'nt feel as much pain. but to leave you in the pub on your own when your all supposed to be friends is going a bit too far even friends don't do that to eachother. The only thing I can think of is that he might have found it a bit painfull to be thair with you & all the memories you shared in that place. I can't say for sure all I can say is you both need to talk it all through & either you'll find you'll still want to be together or you don't either way you need tell each other whats on your mind.

SpawnMan
Mar 25, 2007, 02:10 PM
I agree, I think he's scared. This is coming from a guy btw so heh I understand his basic feelings even if I don't know him personally. Course without knowing him I can't say exactly what he is thinking, but judging from what goes through my mind I can give you a likely synopsis. He is probably scared a little about his feelings for you, that you could affect how he feels so drastically he feels a little out of control. This part varies a lot from guy to guy but, a lot of guys are a little afraid of love because when they fall in love, they give up some control of their lives, some guys give up more than others, and some give up barely any, it depends on the guy so like I said I can't say exactly which it is. If he loves you I know he wants you to be happy, and possibly in his mind he dosn't think he can make you as happy as he wants you to be. The leaving you in the bar alone was a pretty cold move I admit, and not a very honorable one, but he might of felt like he had no choice, he may of felt like he was losing control of his emotions. Guys act tough, but in general we don't like showing a lot of our emotions.