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Mar 10, 2008, 12:06 AM
My Mother and Father will be divorced by this May.
It hurts but, I've seen it coming for a while. And not just for some small amount of time, they've been on the knife's edge for at least ten years now, they hate each other for the most part.
They've both even had people on the side for months from what I understand right now. Dad is bringing his mistress into the house this coming August and Mom is going to go ahead and move in with her guy down in Colorado Springs around the Summer.
It's finally going to happen. I know I'll get a good cry out of this at some point. Right now I'm just glad a decision is down between them and not more half measures and silent treatment and random arguments when they actually do talk to each other.
Mar 10, 2008, 11:52 AM
Well, er... I felt sorry about you. The parents are very important in your life.
Be Strong, Chief, because you can endure this difficult trial in your life.
I don't know if my parents want to divorce, at least, they were very close. But a thing it's sure: Life wouldn't be the same without them together, for good of worse.
Be strong, Sioux. My tip? Get your own house , because I don't know if you can stand four people living together. Expect many fights and arguments.
The Dark Paladin
Mar 10, 2008, 09:28 PM
Yeah, sorry to hear about the fall of grace in your house hold, but it could always be worse, ne? It's a bump in the road that'll be a jolt at first but will smooth out after time. Besides, I've seen a piece of your personality since posting here and I can say that you seem like the kind of person who has their head on their shoulders and can survive with ease jumping a hurdle such as this one. :)
Mar 11, 2008, 02:17 AM
Join the club, Sioux. Sorry to hear that.
My siblings and I must be the rare occasion though. We actually wanted them to get divorced and we rejoiced when it finally happened. My parents' marriage had been a joke since the very beginning--and I mean the VERY beginning. Mom nearly called off the wedding but didn't want to shame her relatives and waste the time/money invested on wedding stuff.
They only stayed in it to keep a good family image, "no one wants a broken family" and whatnot--it was all a charade. They honestly didn't speak for years. They spoke through me and my sisters, passing messages along. Sure, they patched things up the last year or two but I knew it was too little too late. I'm glad it's finally over; it's less stress for everyone in the house.
Well, except my mom of course but that's a different story haha
Anyway, my story aside, I know you're not happy with it Sioux and I actually don't know if I'm happy or sad I've never experienced what that feels like? but either way good luck with that, okay? You're a tough kid
Mar 11, 2008, 03:54 AM
My Mom and Dad are exactly the same, Kat minus the relatives thing. I don't even think my Mom would've stayed with him if she didn't find out she was pregnant with me.
One of the bright spots coming out of this though is that we can all be honest and actually sit in the same room together without some unsightly tension going on.
Mar 11, 2008, 01:43 PM
Ah... the tension, the tension! That horrible moment when a father and mother are apart and in the same room. Yep, I know how that's feel.
Anyways, I really, really want my parents divorce, because, honestly, no one in the house can't stand Dad. When I get a job, I'm kicking Dad out of the house.
As for you Sioux, again, sorry.
Mar 18, 2008, 08:58 PM
This must be a very hard time for you, Sioux. Hopefully, it will be for the best. Once your parents aren't living together under the same roof, it will be sad but there won't be so much tension and, hopefully, you'll feel a lot more comfortable in your own house.
I count myself as lucky, as I have never experienced divorce or separation first hand. In fact, I was one of the few kids at school whose parents were still together. But every time my parents argued, I'd be scared they would be getting a divorce. A couple times my mum nearly walked out, which was heartbreaking enough.
You're strong, and you've been through so much with your college artwork in particular, so just put all your energy into that, and other stuff you enjoy. Easier said than done, but try not to let it get you down. As I said before, this separation will be for the best. :)
Apr 20, 2008, 07:39 PM
Little late, as always.
Sorry to hear about this but I think you'll be alright Sioux, there are rougher things in life to pull through. You will still see both of them, and that's all that really matters I think. I still see both my parents and their new partners, though not as frequently as I would like because my Dad now runs a pub/restaurant out in the boondocks of Wales and it's a pain to get over too often.
Sometimes I think that I'm the only one who couldn't honestly give a shit when my parents split way back in like 1994. In fact, I was happy to agree to the proceedings (My Mom is one of those that asked us how we felt about something before carrying something through). I care about them but the arguments weren't worth it, were they? I never looked into it too much, hardly my business. Though mine never had people on the side to my knowledge, I could understand that as being disorientating.
It's funny really, all this "broken home, messing up kids" nonsense. I'm not an axe murderer or anything, am I? I guess people use it as an excuse to be dickheads. Last I checked, nobody thinks less of you for having divorced parents unless they are the contraception-dodging, Beatles burning kind of opinionated bandwagoner.
Try not to worry about it, like I said before, if you still see them it won't be too bad. I think it's the expectation that is doing your head in? You're not sure how it will change things? Obviously I can't talk for them but from my experience, nothing changed really beyond my parents living in different places (and me getting brought up in pubs when I visited my Dad).
May 11, 2008, 12:28 AM
Life is beautiful.
Now that the whole thing is out in the open, everyone is...happy.
Mom and Dad talk and laugh and still enjoy each other's company but the sham that was their marriage is just in the past and a better looking future is on the horizon.
And it helps that Mom has more clients to clean for, my brother has a job and I have a steady paycheck as well.
Life is good.
Thanks for your respones guys, they helped.
May 11, 2008, 01:36 AM
Glad to hear everything has turned out all right. :)
Sometimes it takes things like this so people can see eye to eye. It was the same for Dave and Trish, my friends' Tracey and Steve's parents. They got on much better when they were divorced, and Trish even got on well with Mandy, Dave's wife. She used to refer to her as 'Aunty Tricia.' ^_^
Good luck to you! :)
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