so i broke up with LDKSparda...

[katiekat2990]

and i gotta say that it didn't really phase me as much as i thought it would. i mean i kinda felt bad about it cause he was going around telling my freinds that he still loved me and shit but when in fact i was falling in love with my best friend.....who i kinda got with like a week after i broke up with LDKS. i mean this happened like at the beginning of april and i'm so happy to be with my new guy (Joseph)



but i just wanted to know if i should really feel bad about doing this to him cause he was always afraid that i would leave him for Joseph...and now i kinda did....


help!:s

[CosmoKing]

In my opinion you've got nothing to feel bad about. You were single and free when you got with Joseph, and instead of feeling bad, you should be congragulating yourself for having the courage to leave LDK and for not going out and cheating like so many other people do. I wish you the best of luck with your new man. :)

[Hoshi]

I agree with CosmoKing. I think cheating is the worst thing to happen in a relationship.

At least you acknowledged that you no longer had strong feelings for LDKS before going to your new guy. Best of luck to you!

[The Dark Paladin]

"Look, I can't change the way I think, and I can't change the way I am." -Eminem

You can't fight your feelings, why feel guilty for giving into them? You have to live your life for you, not for somebody else. You live your life for somebody else, and you'll be miserable. He'll get over it.

[Kat]

Oh gosh that's so high school kk. ;p Buut eh seriously don't worry about it, you were technically single when you got with him. And really what else could you have done? Keep pretending when you really loved someone else? You'd just be wasting not only your time but his, and it's just not fair, so good job ending it before it got any worse.

I was kinda in a similar position a few years ago and psh I didn't wait. If I felt something for the guy I'd tell him right there and then. And I did. :) Can't let it pass you by. I didn't give a crap about what people would think. I knew exactly how I felt and that's all that mattered, and me and you-know-who are still dating. :D

So good luck with that girly! <3

[Andy]

Wow... KK, long time.

Anything regarding love is difficult, everyone has their own little things and part of loving someone is working out the quirks. I'm not all that experienced wth the concept of breaking up, because I'm still with my first girlfriend, which is going on for the best part of a decade now. Though, you were broken up at the time so I don't see why you couldn't. Of course, it could appear that you migrated hastily and to someone with the fear of losing you like you said, it would hit them hard. I can sort of see where everyone is coming from, but I don't subscribe to this "Me, me, me" mentality so I'm going to say that considering other people is always a good thing but if you want to do something then go ahead and do what you think is best... and, no, cheating is never a good thing. So long as you really love the people you are involved with everything works out, I see no problems. You guys can still talk and yes, I'm sure he'll get over it after a sabbattical of random intensity.

I'm probably talking crap.... Good luck to you anyways, and to LDK and Joeseph too, of course. You were single, so don't feel bad on that.

I was kinda in a similar position a few years ago

Yeah... She kept me up for months in a very similar situation, going over and over things. She talks big now but back then she was a mess too. I wasn't really sure what to say then either :P

[Kat]

:P Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. I think you're getting my anecdote confused with something else anyway.

But yeah, break ups are rarely easy but I think he'll be okay as long as you keep a nice stable friendship going. Just be civil with each other and do everything you can not to make him feel like a total loser. :P

[The Dark Paladin]

Wow... KK, long time.

Anything regarding love is difficult, everyone has their own little things and part of loving someone is working out the quirks. I'm not all that experienced wth the concept of breaking up, because I'm still with my first girlfriend, which is going on for the best part of a decade now. Though, you were broken up at the time so I don't see why you couldn't. Of course, it could appear that you migrated hastily and to someone with the fear of losing you like you said, it would hit them hard. I can sort of see where everyone is coming from, but I don't subscribe to this "Me, me, me" mentality so I'm going to say that considering other people is always a good thing but if you want to do something then go ahead and do what you think is best... and, no, cheating is never a good thing. So long as you really love the people you are involved with everything works out, I see no problems. You guys can still talk and yes, I'm sure he'll get over it after a sabbattical of random intensity.

I'm probably talking crap.... Good luck to you anyways, and to LDK and Joeseph too, of course. You were single, so don't feel bad on that.



Yeah... She kept me up for months in a very similar situation, going over and over things. She talks big now but back then she was a mess too. I wasn't really sure what to say then either :P

I've been on the LDK stand-point, more times than I can count on a single hand. I've NEVER been on the KK side of this kind of situation. EVER. But I know that the heart wants what the heart wants, and you're just fooling yourself if you fight it, or put other people's feelings before your own. Don't get me wrong, I'm speaking from a stand-point that is ONLY romance based; I don't feel that way about "me, me, me" on almost any other topic. Of course, if you REALLY loved the person, and found they didn't return the feeling, then you should let them go, so I guess it can't ALWAYS be about your own feelings...

[Andy]

I agree with you on that Dark. It would be bad to hold someone back just because of your own feelings too. Things like this can easily get complicated and the people involved can effortlessly get the wrong end of the stick. I usually use humour to overcome obstacles, but that isn't really applicable to this situation. I suppose you can't expect to keep everyone happy...

The worst thing would be as Kat stated; being a twat about it or blanking him. You guys should stay friendly and try to avoid open conflict. Try talking with him, everything works out over a nice hot cup of Tea eventually. You could run away but that's more trouble than it's worth ;P

Also, Kat dear, I wasn't referring to the anecdote you provided. I was referring to earlier events which were vaguely similar... and talking about shoes... Though I did get used to side-stepping random scorn :P

[The Dark Paladin]

Just call me "Xane". :)

[CosmoKing]

Cant you just tell us your real name?

>_>

[The Dark Paladin]

nah, not because I don't trust you, but I just really hate my name. :D

[katiekat2990]

so yeah the whole "staying friends with LDK" totally didn't work out at all. in fact he tried to pick a fight with me and joseph at my school and junk so i decided that it wasn't worth my time at all trying to be friends with him. he texted me a while ago (which i'm surprised he still knew my number) and tried to say he was sorry but then he just went off on me and called me all kinds of things. so i think the kid just needs to get over it right?

[Roger]

If you've made the effort and he's still being a prune, it's his loss, not yours. At the end of the day, you can only offer friendship, it needs to be a two sided thing of course - and if LDK isn't offering his friendship and/or is being a bit of a loser, again, nothing you can do about it but get on with things. It'll hurt of course, that someone so close to you once upon a time ago can become something you despise, but meh, love and hate are a lot closer in terms of emotions than people make out.

Remember it's a pride issue too with him - us men get rather over protective, even over our ex partners. Don't put it all down to him being nasty. :P