View Full Version : Lonely? Hated? Those don't even scratch the surface.
Jan 26, 2003, 12:15 AM
Well...I can't hold this back any longer. Many people have noticed a change in my attitude...I'm not the happy-go-lucky guy I was a while ago. Things in my life have changed.
It all started a few months ago. Teef told me to go to the counselor. That worked...but only for about 3 weeks. Then it started back up. So: I'm being targeted because I'm the youngest...again. My friend, who is basically the leader of our group, always acts like I'm his slave. He thinks he's superior to me, and thinks he's always right. At every chance he gets, he boasts about certain things. When I do something better than him, he thinks I'm doing it wrong.
He's always hitting me...and I just can't take...I feel hate...and lonely. No one treats me like every one else. Maybe I don't belong here.
Jan 26, 2003, 12:22 AM
but but but......Vin...your my son.... ;_; I always treated you the saem..well...you are the same....hehe.....Don't go away. I care about you... And your friend, thats not cool. I had a friend like that when i was in jr high---gah--drove me nuts. I was afraid to call it quits cause i lived in a small town and making new friends is hard enough to do. But I stood my ground and finally got away from them....and I was much happier. Maybe you should stop being their friend....not in a a mean way, but if they are hurting you then thats not a good relationship. I know its tough letting go of someone, but in this case it might be better for you...and you might be happier. Dont let other people dampen your sunshine. And remember, if you ever wanna talk to me, Im here...I dont care if your younger than me....Your still vin, and will always be... You got my aim ^_^
Jan 26, 2003, 03:09 AM
He doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. No offense, but friends don't go around bossing each other, and thinking only they're right, and they certainly won't hit each other, unless it's just a friendly gesture sort of hit o_O, so it sounds to me like you should stop hanging around with him. Easier said than done, I know, but you should try to make a new friend - one that'll treat you like you should be treated. You're a good person - you deserve good friends. :)
Aloha de Vivi
Jan 26, 2003, 03:15 AM
like Luna said, just stop being his friend....Believe me, I still have a friend like that, always bossy(not to his best friend) if I do something that he doesn't like , he goes "You're out of my club, Junho!" ,so I just act like them, hang around with 'em.
Just try to talk to him nicely, eh?If it doesn't work and he brings you to the point where you hate him and want to kill him, then just fight him.....just beat him up, it might not work.I grew up with lotta violence,and maybe your anger can help you.......
Best of luck, and May God be with you.
Jan 26, 2003, 03:38 AM
Vin...I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. I assume that you've told your friend to stop, right? Well, if you have, and he still treats you this way...he's not a friend, but a bully. Does he treat the other people who hang out with you in the same way? ...I'm sure that they don't like it much, either. If you can gather a group of friends, all of whom are sick of the way this guy is treating them, then maybe you can all leave him out and see how he likes to be singled out.
I'm also so sorry that you are feeling unequal here. You should have no reason to feel that, it shouldn't matter that you are young, I have known you basically ever since I came to UFF9, and you have always been a great friend. If you are feeling lonely...I'm so sorry...I'm always avaliable to talk, and well, you know how to initiate that.
I'm sooo sorry that this is happening to you, Vin...and I wish you all the luck in the world that things will improve, speedily.
Jan 26, 2003, 04:35 AM
Vinny... I'll talk to you via PM... :)
I just want you to know that there are things you can do to stop this. I know it may not be so easy to just walk away and stop being his friend. On the more pessamistic side, he could try turning other people against you for doing that.
Well, I'll talk to you over MSN and through PM.
Don't worry, little bro... we're here fo ya. :)
Jan 26, 2003, 12:40 PM
Haha, the funny thing is...My other friends only hang around with him. Otherwise..everyone in the school hates me, or is popular and hates me. So...I don't really have a choice...My only friends hang around with him...and...actually there's two bullies. The other one takes advantage of me being so nice all of the time.
Jan 26, 2003, 06:09 PM
God, that's horrible. I had a "friend" like that in elementary school, and it was no fun. Like you, my friends were all linked to him, and I spent 3 horrible years like that. This "friend" didn't hit me though, so you're in a worse situation. All I can say is, get out of the situation. As FAST as you can. I had to wait until I changed schools for Junior High, but maybe you can get out of there faster. If your friends are really your friends, they'll understand you. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
Beatrix the Goddess
Jan 26, 2003, 08:48 PM
Discussed on MSN.....as Kuro said, we're here for you Vin :)
Jan 27, 2003, 01:22 AM
i fell deeply sorry for you. i know you don't know me, but i hope you at least understand i fell sorry for you
Jan 27, 2003, 07:11 AM
aiiyahh, how horrible. Just, dump your "friends" cuz if they really were ur "friends" they wouldnt kick it with the kid. and like they'd see wut the "leader" is doin 2 ya. Thats messed up tho..hrrm..im not quite sure wut 2 say cuz something like that never happened to me so i cant..say soemthing when i havent experienced it b4.~:o but yah dont stick with that kid, cuz if u keep kickin it with that kid, ur juss gonna go all blah -_-
Jan 27, 2003, 01:17 PM
I`ve been in the exact same situation, and I felt exactly the way you do now.
My 'friend' told me things like "Anything you can do, I can do better!" while all my other friends were listening, and he was 100% serious!
He honestly claimed he could beat me at anything. (He even tried to convince me when I protested! >_< )
That, and many other things really annoyed me, of course, and I didn`t think of him as a good friend at all.
What I did was, I stayed friends with him for a bit longer to see if he`d change and start treating me better.
But unfortunately, it only got worse, and one day he really crossed the line.
I couldn`t stand being around him anymore, so I had two options:
I continue being his friend, or I leave him and all my other friends, since they don`t want to be around me if I`m no longer friends with him. (If that made sense)
Well... I left.
And I don`t regret it at all.
Yeah, making new friends is hard. Really hard.
Especially if you`re shy, like me.
I haven`t really made many new good friends after I left, but still, it`s better than being around that other bastard.
That guy has no right to treat you like that, Vin.
That`s not what friends are supposed to be like.
Personally, I think the best thing to do is to get out, but it`s your decision.
If you think it would help, you could try to talk to him about it, but with people like him, that`s usually hopeless.
Best of luck, Vin! :)
I hope you manage to get out of all this.
PM me anytime if you want to talk.
As you can see, we`re all here for you. :)
Feb 9, 2003, 10:54 PM
I got some quotes that may shed some light on your situation. Fear not my son, for the mushroom of hope is here ^_^
"Cause sometimes you feel tired, you feel weak,
then you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up.
but you gotta search within you, find that inner strength
And just pull that shit out of you, and get that motivation not to give up
And not be a quitter no matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your
face.and collapse" - Marshall Mathers (Eminem)
"One who lives in a world of hate and slavery is one who will gorw to be liked loved and have many riches" - Echroon Randleen (14th century English poet)
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