Abandonment

[Bunny The Black Fire Dragoon]

OK to let you guys know more about me, I have an older brother (ten years older to be exact) I look up to my older brother because I feel he is one of the only people I can really talk to....but now I feel like he has abandoned me...... He moved out a couple of years ago and promised to come back next week because he is having some trouble......I just found out that he is going to stay because his stupid girlfriend wants him to stay........I don’t know what to do anymore

[Sabrina]

This must be a hard time for you, and there's one thing. We're all behind you.

I won't say : "Kick your brother out of the house!" or "Let him stay, since he's got nowhere to go". He matters alot to you, and I think you have to understand. The best way to solve your problem is to have a good long nice chat. I think that it's time that you all understand each other. It's not because of you that he comes back. It's because of his girlfriend. Now that is a hard thing to deal with.

I won't tell you what exactly to do. I don't have any idea, except to try to talk to each other and... well, things will proceed from there. I know this isn't much help, because... well, I'm not very experienced in these matters. Try to understand him though, because from what you said, he must also be dealing with a hard time.

Follow your heart. Another thing is, we're all behind you.

[Sofa King]

How did it go when you talked to your brother? Did he listen? Is there a reason why he left? Just not sure how to go about helping you out here to give you some advice. Just a lot of holes to your problem.

Is he an adult as in older than 18?

For now Ill assume he is an adult. Hes just got to make his own decisions. Sure he has family and family is suppose to help out. But when he decides to move out then theres nothing you can really do except to talk to him and make him understand your reasons.

Theres just so much you can do for your brother. I have sibblings younger and older. Whenever they need me Ill be there for them. For one because they are family and I want the best for them. But when they go off on their own I really cant force them to stay.

You kinda get my point here? Just talk to your brother. Also talk to your parents about your brother. Just dont try to worry too much about it. You do because you care. But worrying too much doesnt help anyone.

Reply back if you need more advice. :)

[SlankyZerM]

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It's got nothing to do with your brother, he is just pussywhipped. Don't make him decide between you and his girlfriend, as that will only make more problems. Unfortunately with situations like this you have to wait, but keep talking to him as often as possible.

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[Great Harlequin]

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[Beatrix the Goddess]

Apologies for all the editing. I feel like bloody Big Brother.

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Change can be a horrible thing...but just because your brother's moved out doesn't mean that your relationship with him has to end :) It just has to adjust a little. Your brother's not a child anymore, he had to grow up and move out some day...I'm sure he's finding it hard being away from you as well- the change will also be difficult for him, but it has to happen. All you can do is try and make the best of it- you can talk to him on the phone, go round to his place, arrange to spend private time with him, and he'll always be there to offer you whatever advice and support you need.

Pm me anytime :)

[Bunny The Black Fire Dragoon]

IT went good....he saied he is moving somware close and he'll promis to see me more

[Ozma Omega]

I guess I`m a little late.
Good to hear things turned out well, BBFD. :) (If I can call you that)
Now that he`s moving somewhere closer to you, I`m sure you`ll be able to spend more time together.
You know, chances are he`s feeling the same way as you, that he misses you and is afraid you`d think he abandoned you, and that`s why he`s moving. :)

Good luck!