step parents

[Mikayla]

urrghh I can't stand my step mom!!! my parents took 4 f***** years just geting divorced and then my dad goes out and marries a b**** that he met online then a bar i mean wtf? my dad and mom fight all the time and they always drag my bro and me into there fights.but then my dad leaves over seas and your stuck with some one you don't know and dislike. but the time my mom got custody my step mom got mad and did all her court junk seanding letters and then harassing my mom. the other day my step mom talks to me on my friends aol crap when only my dad can talk to me and harrased me for 2 hours. she insulted my mother by caling her a liar and then mumbles about 'do you wanna no the truth telling me she was lieing AHHH why can't step parents leave us alone?! it is a horrid thing to do when you say your mother is lieing to you!!! :yuck: :yuck: :angry: :angry:

[Veev]

I'm sorry. I don't know what it's like going through a parents' divorce and the step parents. I have an idea of what you are going through. Your step mom is trying to replace your mom most likely. She won't realize that you will only have one mom, and there is nothing she can do about it. Seriously, if someone did that to my mom, I'd kick their ass.

Stand up for yourself and for your real mom. Your stepmom is playing mindgames with you. She wants you to think that your mom is evil. I see that you're not falling for it. I honestly don't think it is possible for your stepmom to win the custody of you over your real mom, but who knows with the court system these days.

Sorry, i'm not much help, but good luck with everything :)

[CutieRikku19]

Oh Dagger Tribal, I feel your pain! I know what it's like to have step-parents. They can be such a pain. My dad married this woman that I hardly know, and she wants to get in my business. She lives a state away and it takes about 4 hours to get to her house and they want me to go down there for like the whole summer and they have a different life-style than me, and I could go on and on! My step-dad and I get along sometimes, but sometimes he tries to take the place of my father, and it urks me SO MUCH. Like, just tonight, he was telling me about how my current b/f is trash and he dissapproves of him and stuff, but oh well. Anyway, I'm done complaining ^^;;

[seph]

I know exactly what its like to have step parents. It realllly sucks. Divorce takes way to long. But what really bothers me is the fact that my mom ddares to think she can brign in another man to "be my father" and raise me. EXCUSE me But my real fatrher raised me for the first 13 years of ym life. someone coming into our home and changing things really pisses me off. I will be honest, I hate my father, He was a real asshole. But as crappy as a father he was, he did aise me in a "bad/Good mannor. He really toughined me up for the real world.

[USDiver]

i know exactly wut its like to have step parents.... my step dad is a big a$$..... he once during my mom and his anniversry flipped out and called my dad a big fu***** fu** off and hes always tryin to do things to make himself feel more inm the family...but its annoying cause hes always being an ass to me, and to my friends.... i wish he would just realize that i hate him...

[seph]

Ya That ****** should be yelled at by your mom dude. I dont really like mikey boy either.... i eman sometimes he can be cool.

[Mikayla]

yeah well my dad called me from iraq the other day telling me to call her and say im sorry ha! i don't no the witch then her gets mad because my orders are clear that im not to talk to her hahaha then he wrote me a letter saying that if her were hear and herd the language i used against her (yeah right lies lies lies) and said he would put me over his knee and wash my mouth out w/ soap ha he even toches my mouth i'll rip his finger off lol but im not talking to the witch who insulted my mother saying that she does drugs even though they took her in for a test and all i mean give me a f-ing brake i mean really-ha then she is makeing lies about me can you believe it? lies and setting me up when he comes back im in for it so ugh glad im old enought to decide who i wanna stay with haha telling me what to do ha! the witch is evil i tell you!

[Mikayla]

I'm sorry. I don't know what it's like going through a parents' divorce and the step parents. I have an idea of what you are going through. Your step mom is trying to replace your mom most likely. She won't realize that you will only have one mom, and there is nothing she can do about it. Seriously, if someone did that to my mom, I'd kick their ass.

Stand up for yourself and for your real mom. Your stepmom is playing mindgames with you. She wants you to think that your mom is evil. I see that you're not falling for it. I honestly don't think it is possible for your stepmom to win the custody of you over your real mom, but who knows with the court system these days.

Sorry, i'm not much help, but good luck with everything :)

urgh the court system does suck!!! and my step mom does try to take over and thinks my mom is not as good as she is ha what a joke. the last thing i need is to see and hear from her!

[Mikayla]

i know exactly wut its like to have step parents.... my step dad is a big a$$..... he once during my mom and his anniversry flipped out and called my dad a big fu***** fu** off and hes always tryin to do things to make himself feel more inm the family...but its annoying cause hes always being an ass to me, and to my friends.... i wish he would just realize that i hate him...

ha ha with step parents they just wanna beleive what they want to you know, and it bugs the crap out of me!!! ha i got grounded for a week because i did'nt shut the garage door all the way ha and we all know who really did it haha but my dad just wants to think of my step-mom honestly the parents should put the kids first not the step-parents!

[Demonslayer]

Poor you I feel your pain I have a step dad that is a moron literally. Freaking hate the guy man he is so boring and talks so much shit about himself. I feel like strangling him not only that but he has freaking 5 other kids WTF is going on. Out of no where I have 5 other brothers and sisters it's a hell hole I tell you. It sucks so bad.

[Mikayla]

Oh Dagger Tribal, I feel your pain! I know what it's like to have step-parents. They can be such a pain. My dad married this woman that I hardly know, and she wants to get in my business. She lives a state away and it takes about 4 hours to get to her house and they want me to go down there for like the whole summer and they have a different life-style than me, and I could go on and on! My step-dad and I get along sometimes, but sometimes he tries to take the place of my father, and it urks me SO MUCH. Like, just tonight, he was telling me about how my current b/f is trash and he dissapproves of him and stuff, but oh well. Anyway, I'm done complaining ^^;;

oh man x_x but be glad your dad is around b/c my dad is over seas still. but if i stayed the whole summer w/my step mom there would be a new killer on the block!!!! i can't stand her she looks like she was on crack for 3 years has bin punched in the eye and cut on her lip !!! the woman is so pale she looks dead im telling you she is crazy!!!

[limitztaketime]

well im sort of lucky...my mom and dad are still together..but my dads an alcoholic and my mom is too forgiving...growl it makes me angry..i mean COME ON!! AND get this...my moms in lauflin for the next three days so im stuck with him...im just hoping to god he doesn't drink while shes gone cause i swear ill kill him in his sleep...

[Mikayla]

My dad is the worst i pry would have killed him already if he were still hear! but the bast**** is still in iraq urrghhh!!!! parents are the worst (some) but the person i hate most is my step mom!!!

[limitztaketime]

ooo yeah we all hear ya

[Ozma Omega]

Just a couple of minor things first. This thread has gotten a little out of hand. Please refrain from starting polls about this kind of thing. They don't really belong in the LHH, nor in serious threads such as this. I'll leave it there, since I can't delete it, but just remember it for later. And please don't double-post. Keep your replies in one post. Don't worry about it, though, I know it's easy to make mistakes. :)
Anyway-

I'm terribly sorry to hear about what's going on in your family, Dagger Tribal. I don't know if I can offer much good advice on this one, since I most likely can't imagine what having divorced parents is like. But as Veev said, it sounds like your stepmom is trying to make you dislike your mom by telling you those things, maybe because she's jealous or she thinks it'll make you like her better.

However, it's not working, and that's a good thing. As long as you know what's true, and try not to let the things she says affect you, she won't have the power over you that she wants. Stay true to your beliefs and be strong. It's easy for me to say, I know, and I know it's really hard at times, but it's something you have to do.

I don't know what else to say. Best of luck, DT. :) I truly hope all this gets solved as painlessly as possible.

Pm me anytime. :)

[Beatrix the Goddess]

Yeah, step-parents aren't an easy thing to deal with...but there's one thing I want to say about them. Now this doesn't apply to all of you, but I think it does to some. Imagine if you fell in love with someone who already had kids. If you seriously loved this person- would you give them up just because of a few kids that you don't even know? No, you wouldn't, you'd try your best to fit in with them, wouldn't you? Try & make yourself part of the family, & hope that they'd like ypuif they became family.

So how would you fell if all you got back from them was complete shit? Just think about it.

But having said that, I realise that some step-parents can be awful; mainly stemming from the fact that the remaining parent probably wants to make a fresh start & picks someone totally different to your other parent. Yes, that can be disturbing, especially if the new step-parent muscles in & trys to be your new father/mother. It doesn't work like that if you're over, say, 8. And you're right for resisting that treatment, and right to complain about changes they try to make. But wouldn't it make life easier if you tried to get along with them? DT- your stepmum had no right to say vicious things about your real mother, but instead of getting angry, I'd try the cool & colected approach. Just rise above it and don't take any notice of the things she says. If you keep getting angry, she'll realise she's getting to you and do it all the more. Because lets face it, your stepmum is just being a bully, and bulies get bored if they're ignored.

As for your dad, he may be away a lot, but it seems that he cares enough to write to you & phone you.So just remember that he does love you, & in the end I think he loves you more than any bimbo he ever gets together with.

Pm me anytime :)