View Full Version : A stressfull an not to nice position...
Apr 13, 2004, 10:23 AM
Well the problem is there's this girl that i've known for a while now and i really really like her. The other day i found out she told me she was goin out with someone but for some reason i told her how i felt anyway not caring about what could happen an she said that she loved me too for quite a while but she was'nt sure if i felt the same way and that's why she had'nt said anything to me.
And well that leads us to now im left standing on the side lines while she's with another guy. She does'nt want it to carry on but she does'nt have the heart to break his heart. And there's nothing more in the world at this time that i want more than her. But the thought of her goin out with someone else now that i know this just makes me feel all.....i dunno how to describe it.
What do you all think i should do i know there is'nt a whole lot i can do but im just lost?
Apr 13, 2004, 12:58 PM
Ok dude.... What your feeling is jealousy. It happens to the best of us. Its good you came out and said how you feel... Being honest is good. And her feeling the same way is another good thing for you :) But when we get on the topic of her not wanbting to hurt the guy shes "dating" right now.... simply tell her he will survive. I know what your feeling, ive felt the same way before... But you haveto step up to the plate before somehting happens youll both regret. She hasto come out and be honest with this "other guy". You haveto help her through this, dont pressure her, just sit her down and explain that she hasto be honest with this guy. Just dont let the jealousy get to you dude.. its an ugly thing. She sounds like and very nice person and you do to.. i am sure you will be happy. :P Honesty is the key here.
Apr 13, 2004, 05:09 PM
If she is "just going out with him" then you should act. It would be pretty senseless, for everybody envolved, if she goes out with him, altough she loves you.
Tell her, that it is important for you, to tell that guy off. But remember, that "other guy" is a human too. Maybe he loves her as much as you do.
Apr 13, 2004, 07:51 PM
the first move you can make is to talk to the guy, and get to know him a little. this might take a while... but if you know him well enough, talk to him about the girl.
you cant do anything, the girl has to take action.
i'm sorry if i'm not helping... i havent had enough experience, but good luck buddy.
Apr 17, 2004, 12:02 PM
Hmm, if you both love each other and she's dating someone else, she should definitely end her current relationship. When it comes to relationships, you just can't lie to yourself and continue something just not to hurt the other. It's a tough situation you've gotten into, Game God. :\ It's hard to say what would make the girl you like understand.
The guy will obviously be hurt, but eventually he'll move on and find someone else. When his feelings for this girl aren't returned, the relationship won't work either way. There's no preventing a breakup at some point. The longer she waits to break up, the harder it'll be on both of them. Maybe you should try to remind her of that.
I hope you two manage to get together, and that the other guy gets over her quickly. Good luck to all three of you. :) PM me anytime!
Apr 19, 2004, 12:15 AM
Wow thx for the support and the nickname is gonna go as cos i've had it for like 2 years when i get enough money to change it or if any kind admin would do it for me hint hint lol.
Anyway She's dumping him next thursday and she's gonna tell me how it went at this night club (that plays good rock music mind you :) lol)we go to. She knows it's goin to destroy him but i've told her what you have all pretty much said an it made sence to her. And thx for the support glad i can rely on people here to always pull through with brill advice.
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