here's too us fools that have no meaning

Dec 4, 2002, 03:09 PM

This isn't so much my problem, but I would like too know something,
I imagine that several of you have felt insignificant in the past. Like nothing you say or do will be heard or remembered.How do you cope with the feeling of worthlessness? I've been feeling this way for quite some time. I shrug it off and keep going, though I can't help but wonder if thats wise or not. well..

ArrowCat · Dec 4, 2002, 05:32 PM

I deal with that feeling by thinking of the many, many other people who are just as insignificant as I am. If everyone who felt that way ceased to exist, then there would be very few people left in the world, and they wouldn't have the 'insignificant' people around to grow food and all that good stuff. So all the so called 'significant' people would die off, and the human race wouldn't...be.

Also, I may not mean much in the grand scheme of things, but I know that my family and my friends find me to be significant, and everyone in the world is significant to at least one other person, I assume.

So that's how I shake that feeling...by thinking about what it means to be so 'insignificant', and realizing that nobody is really that insignificant, after all.

***Beatrix the Goddess*** · Dec 4, 2002, 06:54 PM

I cope by having that attitude that it's my deeds, rather than myself, that can do anything towards significance. Sure I may be insignificant, but that doesn't matter if I'm still able to do significant things. Like today (a rainy day) I was out Christmas shopping- I gave £5 to a man busking. It won't make much difference in the grand scheme of things, I won't ever be remembered for it, but all the same, it did make a difference to one person, and that's what matters. Think of all the little things that are significant in your life, well it's like that for everyone else too, there are so many significant things that we all can do, regardless of whether we get thanked, worshipped or remembered for it. The act, not the person. The act makes a difference. Sure it gets hard to keep up that mentality sometimes- I do get frustrated when someone stabs me in the back after I've done something significant for them, or if I don't get any thanks for something big, but I just have to take time to remind myself of what counts.

As for reminding myself I have worth....that's a little harder. Worth and significance are slightly different things. Apparently I'm my worst critic, so people tell me. And I'm very sensitive to criticism, it's very easy to think that I'm completely worthless, and I don't think I'll ever be convinced otherwise, but other people seem to have this ridiculous idea that I have worth to them, and remembering the things people have said to me- those rare remarks that sound as if they mean them, rather than humouring me- helps me go on with life without self-destructing. It gives me just enough confidence to go on trying to help people, without being 110% sure that I'm going to hinder them instead. That's what I'm like when it gets bad..

I'll never be a globally recognised revered figure, I'll never be a Mother Teresa or a Princess Diana or a Florence Nightingale, but I've learnt that when you try to help in a big way, you often miss seeing the countless small ways that you could easily help. Almost all the things I care about most, don't matter at all in the "grand scheme of things", so I prefer to keep to the small things, because I know how much they matter.

There is not a single person on this Earth who has never done a significant thing. And they'll always be at least one person to remember each small yet big act.

Cos · Dec 6, 2002, 08:17 AM

i cope with worthlessness by training,its weird but let me explain:
i am a really good sportsmen at soccer and tennis mainly-plus im really good fighter and i always train to keep fit-so when i am feeling worthless i push myself past all my boundaries until i collapse,then i put on eminem and listen to it.

SlankyZerM · Dec 7, 2002, 12:36 PM

Whenever i feel that no one cares and that no matter what i say or do no one is gonna listen i always take my basketball and shoot a few hoops, I'm a decent players and i'm always getting 3-more in a row when doing my 3 piont and foul. I always feel better after doing something that i used to not be able to do when i was younger, and i try to think that life must go on, but we only get smarter andbetter at our hobbies as we go on in life, and that always makes me feel better

BloodStarDragoon · Dec 8, 2002, 06:44 PM

when ever i get to feeling insinifigent or alone i go for a walk in the wooded areas around my house and find a tree and just sit under it and relax and listen to the sounds of the birds chirping the leafs rustling feeling the wind gently blowing across my skin all this reminds me that we all have a part to play in life now matter how big or small that role is the only thing that matters is that wed o what we can to the best of our abilities

Tayvius · Dec 9, 2002, 08:55 PM

Hmmmmm well everybody has there own way to deal with it............

But think about it this way were given only so long to live and in that time we can influence family, friends even people we might not even know. In my opinion we all have to find our own meaning or significance in this world because if it was the same for everybody then life would be boring. It's how we decide to spend the time we have that is important whether it be with family, friends or the person you love. Everybody should live their life to the fullest and make themselves significant.

I may have repeated myself somewhere in this but you get the jist of it.

Suiren_Oki · Dec 16, 2002, 02:43 AM

Aw, Jugg, we all feel worthless sometimes *hugs*. I feel that way a lot of time. You just have to tell yourself that you are NOT worthless. There are plenty of things to take your mind off those thoughts, 'cause it's not true. Drink a cup of hot tea (or coffee), take a moment to write down your thoughts, draw something, write a story (why do you think I haven't given up yet? All those stories give a meaning to my life), keep a journal. Don't let little things like that trouble you. Talk to a friend. You know that I'm here for you and I know that you know how to contact me.

The feeling of worthlessness is one of the worst in the world, along with loneliness. When you put this two together, it is bound to be horrible. Just try a few of the above things. You might even want to write a letter to the world and burn it. That's what I do.

*hugs* don't feel that way. You are not worthless. Afterall, you have people like me who care about you ^.~ so you have to be worth something, right?