being teased at school....

[Aloha de Vivi]

okay I'm realy pissed this season because of one damn thing....school...There's tis fat kid who always makes fun og me for NO reason, he keeps on calling me "Chinese Freak" in a answer I just ignore him....sometoes I say I'm not Chinese ,I'm Korean..I asked my dad and he just said to beat the shit out of that bastard.But what should I do guys?I cant stand him, it's like he's haunting me everytime.....

[Vivi_Stalker]

Go right to your principal. That could be construed as racism, and all schools should have a STRICT policy on that. The punishment for this kid could be as minor as a warning, or as severe as....Well, I don't exactly document all types of things. ^^;; Expect a student to read the handbook, heh.

But really, if your school doesn't do anything about it, get your parents to call the superintendant or someone who runs the show.

I know it sounds like something only a wimp would do, but YOU might be the one in trouble if it isn't proven you were provoked. I've almost been expelled for fighting...It was only because I had quite a few people stick up for me and say that I was taunted. Your dad may not be right, and I might not be either. But at least try to get things straightened out rationally, okay? Tell us how it turns out. I hate people like the one you've described! They're pretty low to dislike someone because of such a minor thing.

Don't let it get to you, if there's any goodness on Earth, things should right themselves.
*hugs*

[ArrowCat]

Vivi...all I can say is...do not beat him up. There are better ways to deal with this sort of problem.

Vi is exactly right...you need to tell a school official of some sort, a guidance councellor or a principal or whatever. If they do not listen to you, (which there is no reason why they shouldn't) then have a parent talk to them. The school staff will be able to put an end to the problem, and you won't have to get involved at all.

This teasing shows that the person doing it is shallow, mean, and ignorant, and those are traits that will not get him far in life. If you are able to solve your problems without hurting anyone, then you are the one who is strong. Let nothing think that it is a coward's way out, because it's not. Get adult help.

I hope your problem is solved soon, and curse the rascist loser who is teasing you.

[Cos]

i agree with ack and vi,dont fight him,it will only lower you to his standard,you should go to the principle about it,with witnesses,and every school/college/whatever has an extremely strict policy on racism,if nothing happens with the principal ie the principal dont do shit about it,go to someone higher up,like the school board or something,and if he is really going ast you one day,i know ive said not too,but sometimes you have to fight to get him-but id stick with the principal idea,pm me if ya need more help dude.

[Sabrina]

You had better not try and fight him or do something really drastic. Perhaps you should try and ask THAT guy nicely why is he doing this. If the situation goes out of control, tell an adult, preferably the principal. Racism shouldn't be allowed anyway.

I tell you, my school has four different races and if there were racism it'll go all over the school. And that guy has no right to call you a Chinese Freak at ALL, especially if you've done nothing wrong.

I suggest you to talk it out wit this guy and ask him casually why is he doing this. There could be a reason for his behaviour. Like I said earlier, try and get as little people involved as possible. But never ever fight the guy.

Hope it helps

[Amy]

Ah, you've met one of the many pricks in life.

Don't fight him, like posted by a lot of people before, but at the same time, don't ignore it. I have a scenario that involves my brother, it may or may not help, so if it doesn't, smile and nod. Just smiiillleee annnddd nooodddd... lol

He has this bastard who is seriously rather obese, and he gives him shit all the time. He picks on him when we're on the bus, just ...gah, I personally hate him as well. One day my brother damn near got the crap beat out of him, but he stood up to him. ...he still to this day gets teased. So, he told me, thinking I could do something about it.. (blade in bag = DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME) yeah NO i wasn't about to fight his battle! but instead, I told the kid if he opened his fat flaming mouth again he'd have some shit to deal with, and he'd more than likely have a foot in his ass. He left my brother alone after that, and all I had to do was look at him and he knew to stay away.

NOW. This does not mean get a sibling to fight, just don't get anyone else involved, just keep it between you and the other guy, and if it gets out of hand, report it to who you think can work this out. Or, get a mediator in there to see why he does what he does. Be the bigger person, stand up to him, but don't resort to something you don't think is right.

(Note: My brother was 11 at the time, very out of date story)

[Ozma Omega]

Ack, I`m really sorry to hear that!
I don`t know if there`s much more to say that hasn`t been said already.
You definitely need to tell your principal, or some other teacher you trust.
But unfortunately, that doesn`t always help.
Some teachers and schools (like mine) are just too lazy to do anything serious about it.
They don`t see how serious it is.
If (I really hope not) that happens to you, I`m sorry, I don`t know what to do then, because I`m in that situation myself.
But what has happened to you is racism, so your chances of getting something done is much greater.
Don`t give up, this just can`t go on!
And never ever fight the guy, that just makes things worse.

What I usually believe, to get through times of bullying is one day, they`ll get their punishment!
They`ll get back for what they`ve done to you and to others.

I really hope this works out for you.
PM me anytime if you need to talk.

Hang in there!

[_Vincent_]

I had this EXACT same problem just a few weeks ago.
I have just a simple line of advice. Go to your counselor. They are amazing. They solved my problem so fast...it was amazing. It really helped me, and I'm sure it can help you.

Don't resort to any violence, it won't help, just get you in trouble.

[Aloha de Vivi]

Hay Vincent your school has an AMAZING counsler ,right?well mah school they suck!All they to is get peer mediators read the damn script and it's over.So I agree wit Amy I sould just see him smmiilllee.Thanks y'all

[Beatrix the Goddess]

Voilence definitely isn't the way to solve this. Physical or verbal. As everyone else has said- tell someone in authority about this. I know there isn't always an ideal candidate, but your school is obliged to deal with any bullying, and especially racist issues. Take some of your friends along with you when you go & see someone, and there's quite a few people you could go see- your counsellor, your principal, your class teacher. All of their jobs demand that this is dealt with. If you find things aren't getting sorted, then get your dad to speak to your principal. There are ways & means.

But most important of all- don't let this get your self-esteem down. He's really being very ridiculous. Picking on you for the colour of your skin? Try saying that out loud and see just how stupid it sounds. And if he can't come up with anything beter than 'Chinese freak', then I really don't have much respect for his intelligence or wit. Personally what I do when people pick on me for my sexuality, I just laugh & thank them for the compliment. It really confuses their tiny little brains.

Good luck Pm me if you want to talk more

[*tifa*]

That kid is disgusting and immature! If I were Asian and someone said such thing to me, I would've said horrible things back to them. I spend hours and days thinking of all kinds of comebacks and witty replies. But that's just the way I am. In your case, verbal violence isn't the solution. I don't think counselors or teachers would be much help. Maybe you could get them or your parents to talk to the fatty's parent. If he calls you a Chinese freak not even once, but repeatedly, he obviously has a problem. Maybe he gets teased for being fat and gets stressed out and picks on other kids. Who knows. Anyway, I'm sorry you have to deal with him...

[Kagome]

Wow.. I've never been teased like that before... (except for 1st grade. I hate you, Tony Harrison! Luckily for me, he moved to Alaska, and I still recall my joy in hearing that, and my thinking about him freezing up there, hehehehe But, it's a vague memory now.)

I dunno how you deal with problems like these... but when someone teases me, sure, it hurts.. but what I do is just laugh and say something back (Nothing that will truly insult them), and soon enough, we'd become okay friends and there isn't anymore teasing, but s/he would instead help me.

I dunno; my apporach to these things is.. to be an optimist. To be optimistic. It doesn't always work, and when it doesn't, I just glare at them, and they may make remarks or comment about it, but sooner or later, they'd stop.

And sometimes, cuz I'm so soft-hearted, and emotional (also, easily pissed off), I'd either beat 'em up (not as likely as: ) or cry. Hey, crying helps. Weird, huh? Cuz people who make fun of me are usually soft-hearted, i guess I'm lucky, cuz they'd come up to me and say sorry and stuff. Yeah, I'm a lucky person, but expecting it to happen all the time doesn't help.

Try not to reveal your weaker side, but don't provoke them either. Maybe my message doesn't help, but at least I'm trying, eh? And that's girls for ya, always "I" and "me"

[kgirl9113]

oh you mean andre? that fat no good boy? he always jiggles and wiggles around when walking. He is so annoying to me to.
just nod your head when he says something mean to you, as if you agreed.

[jOo cRaZy]

ey, he's a fat kid..he needs to pick on sumwun ; but yah go to the principle even tho thats not wut i'd do..>.> xD, that fat bastard would've ate dirt if he did that to me, by callin me a "chinese freak" errr..well he'd get the shit beatend outta him here aiyah, the only reason i wouldnt go to the principle is cuz..cuz..most ppl r scared of me and my krew here.. cuz they noe wut we're able to do.. xD even tho it sounds mean, its at least a good bak up to have when ur being punked around. xP

hrrmm, around here if u go to the principle or counselor..sumtime sthe problem gets worse..for us. *sigh*