I'm attracted to this girl, annnd... - Page 2

seph · Apr 16, 2010, 12:01 AM

Lemme keep this short for ya.

You can love someone.. it doesnt matter who it is. The way yo feel for J isnt any sort of ultimatum that you need to be with her or progress in the relationship. "Being together" is just another title used in the dating world. The best thing you can do is be there for her, take care of her, and through time she will see that and the potential for you two to develop something amazing is only growing.

Great things take time so just have patience.. and stay in her life and be there for her, show her you love her not by telling her but by showing her.

Dedrus · May 5, 2010, 09:14 PM

Well I figured I should let you all know.

Things kinda took an unexpected turn...
I was walking J home after school one day (we both stayed to do some work) and we had just said goodbye as she got to her house. As I turned away she called me back and invited me inside... now at this point I was kinda worried, she sounded kinda upset.
We went up to her room (this is not how it sounds... >,< ) and she told me that I'd been acting a little 'off' with her, like she'd done something wrong.

At first I just told her that I had some stuff going through my mind, which then naturally led to her asking me what it was. So, amongst other things, I ended up telling her that there's this girl who I'm really close to and I can't decide how I felt about them.
Yeah. I should've realised how smart J was. She immediately knew I was talking about her - but she acted differently to how I expected. She said something along the lines of;
"I know we're really close but what we have is different kind of relationship..."
Now at that point I was pretty shocked, as she was basically saying what I was feeling.
"You're a really lovely guy and I'm so happy we have this sort of relationship, If I need someone to rely on you're the first person I think about."

That about summed up how I felt. I was really only reading into things - we discussed it further and I realised that, because what we had was totally different to any sort of relationship I've ever had, I mistook it for meaning more than what it was. In the end she gave me a lecture about how I should have told her earlier lol >,<
But it seems like she's cool with it all, if anything we're closer than before. I mean, now the time I spend with her is very enjoyable as I don't have the constant doubt on my mind.

But even if this conversation came up some other time before, I would've just totally dismissed it. You guys kinda gave me the courage and the means to actually (sorta) tell her what I was feeling.

So... damn, thanks guys. You rock!

<3

Andy · May 7, 2010, 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Dedrus

"You're a really lovely guy and I'm so happy we have this sort of relationship, If I need someone to rely on you're the first person I think about."

Hell, it's better than a kick in the teeth

Kat · May 7, 2010, 06:59 AM

<3 As long as you're happy and not setting yourself up for disappointment

I'm glad you guys got that sorted out. Not a lot of people survive "the talk".

Andy · May 7, 2010, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Kat

Not a lot of people survive "the talk".

I guess it depends on the people involved. J sounds pretty level-headed. I'm guessing that if the circumstances were aligned slightly differently, you'd have a different story on your hands. Life is like that though - you never really know how things are going to play out until stuff plays out.

Why I usually just go with whatever... and I don't want to give the whole "Been there, Kid..." speech, so I'll just compact and throw something.

Anyways, put it out of your mind for a while. Carry on as you are, channel it into something else and just have fun. You're only young once. Take it from someone who is getting old now...

Anyways, I'm going to shut up now.

Magus · May 7, 2010, 09:01 PM

I'm glad she picked up on you being "off" about her. 'Cause, y'know poor communication kills. At least in fiction. And fiction is like real life, right? Right?

Dedrus · May 9, 2010, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Magus

I'm glad she picked up on you being "off" about her. 'Cause, y'know poor communication kills. At least in fiction. And fiction is like real life, right? Right?

I'm glad she did too, otherwise I would probably still be keeping it from her.
I'm just glad it's out in the open (well, atleast between me and J it is), 'cos now I know how we both feel... and well, the feeling's more or less mutual.

Heh, yeah, you don't stay young forever. I'm planning to make the most out of it >,<

cloudff7pc · May 12, 2010, 12:41 AM

Who doesn't love a happy ending? WHO?!

Mikayla · May 17, 2010, 09:48 PM

Hitler.

+Characters

cloudff7pc · Jun 10, 2010, 08:59 PM

As people have said, if you want this girl then you need to chase her. Don't spend time thinking about "what if" and spend more time implementing your dreams.

Why don't you ask the girl? If she's a close friend then surely you can talk to her. Tell her about your feelings and that you can't help them. If the girl is willing to cuddle with you, then I'm sure that she has some form of romance for you.

The love of my life; the girl I've been with the 3 years was with a boy when I met her. We weren't best friends, I didn't even know the guy, but because I knew that she was right for me I persisted with her. I'm now as happy as ever.