Parents

seph · Feb 12, 2004, 01:17 PM

OK.. my "parents" have been divorced for about a year now..... They fight and shit. But i mean they found enw "partners" really quick. I mean.. wtf is up with that? I understand the whole move on thing. But i eman you dont fin someone "new" in under a week! Can anyone plz help explain this to me! Is it like a thing they do? WIll my mom get another divorce? whatsup? Its just putting alot of Finacial, and emotional stress on the family. My sister has liked cracked and is now a ***** to everyone, but i mean argh. Help plz...

Letara · Feb 12, 2004, 05:40 PM

Apparently the divorce has been very difficult for your parents. When they find someone new in such a short time, that means that they need somebody to rely on. My advice: Be that somebody.
And talk to your sister, about what she feels. Tell her, that she is only making things more difficult for you, for both of you. You need to stick together, when your parents arent able hold the family together anymore.

Leon Belmont · Feb 12, 2004, 09:45 PM

How can you even stand one parent I have to suffer through two for 4 f***ing years of my high school. Their nagging about my Math grades they make me want to kill them.

seph · Feb 13, 2004, 12:48 PM

Dude... both of them nag me but man. Having one parent isnt much better, i mean. grrr. I wanted to kill em and still do! but geezem! this sucks!

Daemon Siuol · Mar 19, 2004, 06:42 PM

You guys are lucky to have parents who at least care for you, my ma and pops divorced when I was two months old, I had to hop from one to the other for abuse and punishment, then one day, one up and dies, and y'know being 6, this is an emotional breakdown for life.

I had to live with the other parent through thick really thick:
being, loathed and hated by every member of my family from both sides. Being called S*** faced half breed, f***ing demon child, F***ing worthless crybaby. I was 7 give me a break.

My closest relatives who seemed to "love" me when my parent was alive, F***ing beat the S*** out of me just for not looking like them, being different, being me. Then being teased at school, having no friends, and constantly getting into fights.

Yeah, I know what it's like to handle divorce and more so. So, I feel your pain. My advice to you is: be strong, no matter what happens, never do anything that you will regret.

"Live not for what you have, but what you don't have."

dark_neo-bahamut zero 13 · Mar 20, 2004, 06:23 PM

ouch that had to hurt!(talking to daemon siol)
I didn't know that much people had such disfunctional families...
i'm thanking god for such a relatively complete one...

Man, Just keep it up it'll be over soon.(to seph)
Try helping your sis out at hard times, she'll learn to rely on you.

If your parents both found new partners quickly, it means that they're trying as hard as they can to forget each other, they picked the first person they thought of!

trust me , it's just a phase!
and if you want them to come back together,.....well that's up to you.

Leon Belmont · Mar 21, 2004, 12:01 AM

You know what even though if you looked at a pic of w/ your soul eyes me w/ my parents you would only see them and a smile w/o a body.

dark_neo-bahamut zero 13 · Mar 21, 2004, 07:08 AM

what do you mean by that?

Leon Belmont · Mar 21, 2004, 01:31 PM

It means that my smile has no soul in otherwords I smile w/ an empty soul.

krikie · Mar 23, 2004, 12:18 AM

Oh ok...well seph, like they said, just be strong and stand up for yourself through the hard times and the not-so0-hard times. And like said before, try to develope a re;ationship with your sis, it will REALLY help you out!
much luv and good luck

***Beatrix the Goddess*** · Mar 23, 2004, 11:57 AM

Alright, I'll tolerate a fair amount of deviation in here, but not this much. King of Darkness & dark-neo could you please take your conversation to PM if you want to continue it.

And King of Darkness...maybe you haven't quite got the idea about this forum yet- take a look around at the other threads. I'm not unsympathetic towards you, but if you just purely want to let loose about your own problems then please start your own thread or post in one of the appropriate stickies, not do it in someone else's thread & not bother attempting to give any advice or support to them. Because that's the general idea, ok?

I'll let it go this time, but bear it in mind.

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I hate to say it seph, but are you sure that your parents only "just" found other people? Why did they divorce in the first place? Maybe there were some affairs going on.

And as for why they're acting like this....well you don't just see it in divorced couples. Seems to me that anyone who's been in a long relatonship then breaks up, has a fling or two before getting back to normal. Maybe its something to do with the sudden feeling of freedom, or wanting to experience that "first stage" of a relationship again. I don't understand it myself; but some people feel confined if they're in a relationship for too long. Personally I think they don't realise how lucky they are, but thats just me. All I can say is don't copy their example, because yu've now seen what it leads to. Anyway; its just what people tend to do- your parents aren't the first to have done it. Its probably a combined feeling of freedom & loss- as well as feeling unchained, they also want someone to lean on again. Its a horrible conflicton really; you break up with someone because, say, you feel trapped, but then once it happens, you feel alone & you want someone again.

Like others have said; they're searching for anyone to lean on- not just another lover, so you lending your support will help. I imagine it'll be difficult to stop your parents accusing you of favouritism, but you've just got to strike what you know is an even balance, & stick to it no matter what. But I think what you can be sure of is that, even if they don't love each other anymore, they still love you. Parental love seems to be more enduring than romantc love sometimes.

As for your sister; she's probably havng as hard a time as you, but showing it differently. Try & empathise with her a little, & maybe she'll let down her guard a bit.

Pm me anytime you want to talk