Telling your parents something

[antman]

Have you ever had something that you've wanted to tell your parents, but didn't know how to? Or didn't know how they'd react? Just wondering what people did in the end - how they told them, whether they did tell them in the end, did they tell another relative first/instead, etc.

(Obviously I have something to tell mine but don't know how to, etc)

[Mikayla]

Yeah Telling my dad how much I hate his wife. I told him of couse but in the end he puched me away insulted me and screamed cursed everything. I hate him (not intierly cause I love him) but he makes me mad everytime I see him. I can tell my mom anything.... besides the fact that I watched kill bill behind her back but uh I wont tell her =P either way I always tell my mom stuff even if it takes a while

[Minion]

yeah, telling my mom that i didnt want to go on vacation to some place (i forget it now), becuase i wasnt feeling to good and all that, i know she would flip out ad all, saying that i stay inside all day and all....

[Shned]

Yes. Two things, one of which I've not yet talked about. The first being how I didn't want to move house. I'd been wanting to tell my mother just how much I love where we currently are, and didn't want to leave it until it was my decision to make. When I finally told her, I just broke down, and she said she'd never do anything to hurt me, or anyone else in the family. I threw that back by saying how painful this was. I never liked seeing here in tears, but there wasn't much choice. Though I've calmed down over the situation, we're still moving. And by the looks of things, to the middle of nowhere.

The second thing isn't so emotional to confess. Rather, it's more venting through frustration. The man my mother's currently seeing, I think, is a complete bastard. Only myself and my older brother see it. And if anything progesses further with them, then I won't be best pleased. I've not told her, because I'm not about to break her happiness. Her joy. But for now, I'll keep it to myself, along with everything else.

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[Quiet_Fox]

I feel that way about my parents all the time. I always feel like I can't tell them anything because they always act like I'm some kind of bad kid or something. It should be a miracle to them I've never drank alcohol (I don't know how to spell that in english for some reason) and I've never done drugs, or smoked, or "get intimate with a girl". They don't appreceate anything I do. And they never listen when I talk to them, so sadly, I just don't say much to them anymore.

[Arteta]

I don't really tell my parents a lot about what goes on in my life, it's not that I don't like them, I love them very dearly. But the only time I tell them anything is if they are going to do something that would affect me in any great way. It's like there's some sort of barrier between us, but I'm used to it now, many important things have happened in my life that they don't know about and probbably should. So sorry, can't help you in any great way there.

[Isis_Rose]

I never really tell my parents anything...I love my dad to death but me and my mom have never really gotten along.
Try this if you want, it's what I do if I get stuck in a bad situation: Think of the worst possible thing that could go wrong and try to convince yourself that that's what will happen. Then tell them and it prolly won't be the worst thing. It might still be bad but be thankful that it's not the thing you thought of originaly.

[Kaii]

Tons of things I've wanted to say. Never said a one of them . Nah, if it's anything not-so-important, or if it has to do with our life, then I can pretty much say anything, and my mom's fine with it. Or, if she isn't, she understands how I feel, but nothing will change. I know, at this point, what my mom wants to hear and know about and what she'd be happier with if I just lied about it. She does it to her family, and sometimes to me, so I reciprocate. Anything I think she can handle, she knows about. And in her opinion, she knows me pretty well XD.

But yesh, if it's something you wish to tell a close family member, then you should know how they react. How do they react to similar situations? Is it something they've expressly told you not to do (thinking about my own stuff there >.>)? If it's important, then go ahead and tell them already. Be firm and rational. If it's something that'll pass over, forget it. And if you're worried if they'll tell other relatives, try to talk them out of that <.>. Or bribe them?

[Zidane]

I feel scared to tell my dad, how I feel about Diana(step mom). I love her and all, but it seems as she dosen't like me being there or something. I feel scared to talk to her now, cuz she lost her job, and they're in stress now, and I don't want to make it even worse if she thinks I hate her(which I don't) I'll have a week to gather my courage together about talking to her. I've talked about her with others things, but I never do really talk to her. The most I talk to her is about whats right for me, or all we say is hi, or bye, or something like that. Anyways, I feel that way too. With my mom and dad, I feel freaked to tell them stuff, cuz sometimes they get all over it liek I'm gonna die or the wrold is gonna end.:p

[swatleader]

well there is a lot i don't tell my parents and soemtimes they find out anyways but for like 99% of the time they never know. like how for the past 4 or so years i went in and out of serious depression till it all ended a couple months ago. another thing i never told them that i sort of figured out on my own with help from a friend was that i had what is called social phobia(social anxiety) he noticed it from how i acted and i looked it up over a couple months and pretty much knew right away that it was correct and was not till over 2 years later(earlier this year) after car accident my parents took notice and than found out. but thats only small things, my friends know many many times more about me than my own parents cause i feel more confortable telling friends things than my own parents cause at times i feel they care more than my parents and at times is very much true.

[Beatrix the Goddess]

Telling my mum something she isn't going to like is similar to detonating an atomic bomb, so I generally try to keep things quite & deal with them myself first. I don't mean she yells at me every time, itsd also uif something is bothering me, she'll take very drastic (mostly embarrassing) action over it, just because she cares about me. So yeah..she has to be handled with kid gloves when telling her certain things. I think the best way to tell any parent anything is to be well prepared beforehand, then you can control the conversation more because you're cool-headed. When both of you get emotional its generally a receipe for trouble.